Sunday, November 07, 2010

What our face can tell others

We must be careful how we come across to others, especially if we are in the public eyes. This is such a hard thing to master is our emotions with our face. The message we can send out can be so telling on our face, such as defeated before it happens. It can happen so quickly and before we can pull our emotions together it has been captured on film.Once fear or worry has been sent out its hard take it back..

The saying is best offence is a defence, just as a runner psychs up before he starts of on his run we have to do the same with our minds because if we don't watch our thoughts they can run over our face before we know it.

Just as a smile can be so contagious and change the moods of those around us, we can learn alot about the smile, from the forced smile lips closed, however you can not help but smile back at a hearty smile. It truly can be an ice what is your face telling others..

Monday, October 18, 2010

Hands in the pockets

 When we see someone with their hands in their pockets there are some reasons behind this, however we need to take the situation or circumstances into consideration.
First if it’s a cold day of course we all tend to put our hands in our pockets.

 If you go to a seminar and his hands are in his pockets there could be a few reasons for this. It could be they are nervous, anxious or uncomfortable with the circumstances.  Even when someone is bored or just not interested hands linger in the pockets.
If you find yourself putting your hands in your pockets to much it can send a message you lack confidence. If you want to give a good impression avoid this action.
The most one to be wary of it could be that they are trying to hide something from you; this would not be a good one if they are stuttering or uming and harring alot in their conversation with you. 

Tuesday, October 05, 2010

Sports Body Talk

Whether it's Olympic Games or Grand Slam tennis or indeed any sports event whether grand or small, the watching fans will be 'living' the success and disappointments of the sportsmen and women they support. It doesn't matter whether you're in a stadium or at home in an armchair, you'll be enthusiastically air punching or slapping hand to mouth in despair -- depending on if the touchdown catch or whatever -- is safely made.
Just what prompts these instinctive gestures has puzzled scientists for centuries especially the distinction between the innate and the learned.
It isn't so difficult to fathom the origins of the open-mouthed gasp of surprise or horror. Air is forced into the lungs in preparation for what was once a primitive 'flight or fight' decision when stumbling over a sabre-toothed tiger in one or other Ice Age.
But there is no neat and tidy explanation for every impulsive gesture. Those that are common to all mankind tested the brain of Mr Evolution himself, Charles Darwin.
Shaking a clenched fist to demonstrate anger is a signal of displeasure recognised around the world or arm bent with fist clenched says it all..

The 'Naked Ape' author Desmond Morris examined 600 human gestures in his 'Bodytalk' -- a world guide to gestures'. He accepted "A smile is a smile is a smile, around the world over...some elements of body language, therefore, are more basic than others."

Monday, August 23, 2010

Airport Body Language

    Suspicious eyes are a real give away!  

Whilst waiting at the airport to return to the UK I was amazed how the airport staff really have to be so diligent in checking any signs that could be a threat to the safety of the passengers. We can be just as diligent to watch for signs and report anything that looks suspicious to help them with this enormous task.

True some people are naturally afraid of flying so they may give of signs such as anxiety, pacing, hand rubbing and worried look written all over their face.


However, we can help by keeping our eyes and ears open to anything that looks suspicious.

Tuesday, August 03, 2010

How open are you to your teenagers

When we have open body language others see this and warmed to us immediately. If you wonder why your mate or children just are not responding perhaps its because they don't see an opening for them as our body language is too closed for them.

You said you would talk about it with me .....
which would you prefer.

The myth is that teenagers don't need us as much as they are starting to become more independent, in actual facts they need us more and to be open and warm. Sensitive issues arise through teenage years where parents need to display open body language. As we can see if they are open so can they with parents so how well do you warm to your teenagers

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Hands on Hips

Ready for action! Yes the hands on hips non verbal is a wife standing at the door hands on hips as the husband staggers down the path on pay day... oh ok those days are over but you get my meaning. Which one is more aggressive!

Whats interesting is that their are different messages, just depends the way they are standing of course some are more subtle ways of saying I am ready willing and able. They can be directing their attention to YOU. This position indicates they are really into you.

Wednesday, June 30, 2010

Can you keep your cool

Its not easy staying calm when you see it all going to pieces before your very eyes...this can be a business deal to a peace talk. Learning to control your emotions can have great benefits in every aspects of your life.

Yet does your body language say you are calm. Here are a few examples to keep in mind.

Jaw tension is not a good thing and even though you might be saying nothing your jaw clenching does, it sends out a message of stress levels are high.

Lips are tightly clenched, I mean this shows you are just waiting to pounce out all the stuff you shouldn't say and its just going to leak out at some stage, so quickly take your leave before it does.

Friday, June 04, 2010

What does the way we speak have to do with our Body Language

Check your tone of Voice when Speaking

I remember my mum saying stop yelling, you sound like a fishermen's wife, it took me several years to understand what that saying really meant.
Your tone of voice can convey a wealth of information, ranging from enthusiasm to disinterest to anger. Watch how your tone of voice affects how others respond to you and try using tone of voice to emphasize ideas that you want to communicate. For example, if you want to show genuine interest in something, express your enthusiasm by using an animated tone of voice

Look for Incongruent Behaviors

Words must match nonverbal behaviors, you should pay careful attention. For example, someone might tell you they are happy while frown lines are imprinted on their forehead and they constantly look at the ground. Research has shown that when words fail to match up with nonverbal signals, people tend to ignore what has been said and focus instead on nonverbal expressions of moods, thoughts, and emotions.

Saturday, May 29, 2010

Condescending body language

What is condescending body language?  It is stooping to the others level as inferior to the other person. Also your whole body will close of by such things as arm folding to leg folding when both are applied as in this picture is a good demo of condescending body language.

Have you ever had someone grab your hand when they shake it and put theirs on top of yours, then that too is condescending mannerisms. If we really want to attract people to us or to send out a healthy message for onlookers then mind those manners...

Monday, May 24, 2010

Can attitude make a difference.

It is amazing how we can attract or detract just with our attitude.

 When we were children playing in the play ground we could always see which child was sulking just by their body language.

So whats really different as see it can only start with YOU how you walk talk it does make a difference. If someone was walking down the road with a spring in their walk you would know they are a person with a mission, so next time see if you can spot the one with a good attitude..